Hey guys,
I stay at home with my 15 month old, Owen, who is extremely smart and independant. Recently though he has started to throw a multitude of mini-tantrums per day if he doesn't want to sit still, or wants something not safe for infants, etc.
I know that this is normal infant behavior but it doesn't make it any easier. How have any of you coped with this phase (hopefully it's a phase)?
Also, I always try to handle such episodes without making a scene or getting too frustrated with him but sometimes I think to myself, "God made you just cute enough so that I wouldn't sell you to the gypsies boy."
Thanks for the feedback,
Pdub
Living with Tantrums
black market pays more than gypsies...
No, seriously though. Tantrums are never easy. Especially at an age where they really can't be scolded because they don't understand. My two year old has a severe temper and ridiculous tantrums. It's been going on for close to 10 months actually (sorry, hope that doesn't scare you more). But what I do that nearly always works is a technique called "Stop the World". A lot of information on this technique can be found online. Basically when my little guy has a tantrum, I pick him up, sit down with him on my lap and hold him just tight enough that he can't really move without completely restraining him. Then I just talk to him in a calm voice and tell him that it was naughty and how much I love him. I just stay like that until he settles down. A lot of time it's just enough to get him to a sobbing state where I can set him down and he will settle himself down. This has worked wonders for me. It's really hard sometimes and ususally I end up crying right along with him, but it is a wonderful technique and has been an amazing help with his behavior.
Proud to be an ADHD-SAHD
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I kind of treat it like a seizure. Make sure while they flail on the floor that there is nothing around they can get hurt on. Our 18 month old is mostly out of the phase, and yes it is a phase. Her thing was to through her self backword, so when we saw a tantrum coming on we carried her as she tried to wriggle out of arms to the soft carpet and laid her down so she can wriggle and scream in safety.
For us, holding her tight was not an option. It made her worse, but I know this works for many kids. After she finishes flailing on the floor, she then is willing to accept cuddles. Her rants usually only last about 30 seconds tops.
Get used to counting to 10 for yourself. Speak calmly as you can, because they are usually mad that they cannot communicate what they want, or don't understand why they are not allowed to do something.
I'm reading a good book that can help
i hope it helps you as much as it has helped me
Chef Kev
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JPhillip said it, therefor it is, Chef= C=Caring, H=Helpful, E=Excellent, F=Fubar
duct tape
no really, when my sons threw tantrums, they immediately went to their room...after they messed up the room, anything that was out of place got taken away until they earned them back.....it didn't take long for them to understand that a tantrum was going to get their blankets and bears taken away and now they respond better to going to time out etc........as soon as they calm down, we sit and talk about why they are upset and why they can't have, do, eat whatever caused it....
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