Prostate check by a Female Doctor

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Ok, I'll be up front about this - I need my prostate checked as I turned 40 this year. Not that it isn't embarrassing enough but now the question of whether I go for a female doctor versus male. What really bothers me is that I hear that certain reactions are likely, like getting a huge God-Almighty boner. Somehow I think I'd be more embarrassed of said boner in front of a woman than a man, which now seems weirder still. After all, I've never had a boner with a man and yet I'm freaked out about a woman sticking her finger up my butt.

Thoughts?

Doctor recommendations?




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Don't worry about getting a boner...male or female.

It is all too clinical. They should only be checking your prostate, not stimulating it! ;) Besides, I am sure they have seen a few prostate-checking boners.



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PeterAB

Just go out to a nice dinner and a movie first.
That way, it'll be more like the end of a date.

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I second the gentleman from South Carolina

Exit physical from the Army. Hot doc with great rack. Made the experience bearable.

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That is hysterical! Wait

That is hysterical! Wait till I tell the 'struggle and strife'.

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Just had mine done..

..by my female family doc. It wasn't a big deal, which is not to say that I'd like to make it a regular part of my visits to the doctor. No boner, but it did feel like she'd hooked a tractor to a large turd in my bowel. Fortunately, the whole thing lasted about three seconds.

My advice is, as on all things medical, get a doctor you can trust to be professional and competent. Then, recognize that your body is not all that different from the dozens/hundreds of others s/he has dealt with before. Oh.. and don't ever run for elected office.

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Good Idea

Woen have smaller hands and more slender fingers maning the old "jelly finger" a tad more tolerable.

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Great replies - thanks!!

You guys are so funny - I just pissed myself laughing.

"Hand on both shoulders". Funny funny. Keep 'em coming.

Peter, Charlotte & Dorothy.



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Erogenous

...don't knock it 'til you've tried it :)

I've had the same female doc for 10 years and never had a problem. I can understand anxiety if you've never been probed by a woman. Also, I understand some guys are more prone to bone without reason. It's still an awkward moment for me so an erection never enters the picture.

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erogenous zone?

"The prostate is considered by many in the medical community as a "male erogenous zone"."

Peter,

I've had mine checked twice and I can tell you that it was perhaps the least erotic experience of my life. It was definitely one of the more bizarre experiences I've had. Now that you brought this up, I'll be thinking about this thread at my next checkup.

After my prostate was checked I was sore for the next few days, so don't do it the day before you run a marathon.

Good luck keeping it down,
Jim



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Is there a problem here?

Peter,

Don't overthink this one my good man. Just lie back and think of Britain. ;)

Mark



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Speaking of England

Sorry msmithivas, it's "close your eyes and think of England."

This is supposed to be recorded in the 1912 journal of Lady Hillingdon:
"When I hear his steps outside my door I lie down on my bed, open my legs and think of England."

Anyhow a near fool proof way to avoid and unwated "salute" is go to this page http://www.casebook.org/victims/ look at the pics and go forth for your exam. Gods speed.

I will also add this isn't Middel School where a cool breeze or a bumpy ride on the buss gives you a stiffy. :-)

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silver lining

Think of it this way, man... if at 40 years old you get a high hard one that easy, that's a good sign! Wouldn't you rather get one at the Dr. than have to ask the Dr for a prescription for little blue pills?



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No Biggie...or Woody Either

You'll be surprised how NOT a big deal this is when it's finally over and done with. When it's happening, sex is pretty much the last thing on your mind so the unexpected boner is probably not going to happen. I've been going to a female doc for years now and she is awesome at making me feel comfortable about some very uncomfortable things she has to do to me (testicle exam, prostate exam, etc...). I'm guessing yours will do that too. I personally have never gotten a hard on from a doc doing this exam. And finally, when all is said and done, it's better to have it done and find any problem there maybe, than to not do it and die from something you don't know about until it's too late. I would say, if you are comfortable (as you can be) with your female doc for the rest of it...just let her do this too. She's a professional that you've trusted for everything else so you can trust her with this too.

As a side note, the last time I had this done I actually asked her if most of her male patients had her do this or is they went to a male doc for this. She told me that most of them do come to her and that it's usually the older men that opt for a male doc. I thought that was interesting.

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My First

Ah I remember my first exam...
I was a mere buck no more than 17 with sever intestinal distress and was checked out for intestinal bleeding. Regrettably I saw a male doctor who apparently had canned hams for fingers. Man...did that hurt.

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I started calling my Dr.

I started calling my Dr. "Captain Kirk". Because he had boldy gone where no man had gone before.

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I call my Dr...

I named mine... Sgt. Spelunker

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I have a size 22 ring finger..

Bend over......

Or your Dr. could have a size 4 or 5 ? Much better in my book.

As for the wood..." Boners happen"... Its just nerves.

Damn I 'm turning 40 this month..

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Happy Birthday Chef!

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Think about the doctor's perspective

Looking at the back-end of business... some patients are more hygienic than others... some probably stink. Ain't that sexy for them, I bet. Think about that during the exam and I am sure your little man will not come to attention. Of course, my doctor told me that she has done this countless times and she doesn't mind as long as the patient doesn't make audible sounds of pleasure.



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ty Wolf

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SFOSTER...

Ew...you nasty! :-)
When I was in Istanbul all the toilets had the "Mr Squirty" to clean yourself. I admit it was refreshing but I didn't always get the bullseye. I demured using the pay "squaters"- called alaturka in Turkey - as they didn't even have Mr Squrty, they had a jug next to a tap on the floor. 1 YTL to crap on you shoes and use your hand! Wow sign me up.

Agreed, it isn't like skee ball for the doc, so many exams and they get to pick out a prize.

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My experiences

Well, I've been through this, several times actually, because of health problems I'm dealing with. Here's a few things to think about: (some have been mentioned above)

1. Women have smaller fingers... meaning... Do you want "Dr. Bruno" the ex-offensive lineman with a size 20 wedding ring or a woman with thin, dainty fingers?

2. Women are generally more delicate and a gentle than men.

3. Apparantly The prostate is considered by many in the medical community as a "male erogenous zone" ( they're f***ing sick!). So they say there is a relatively good chance a guy could get an erection. So if you're going to get one either way, wouldn't you rather have it caused by a female?

4. I was afraid of this exact scenario when I first had to have "the oil checked". I had to see an endocrinologist (hormone specialist) who was a woman. First I had to have my testicles checked for abnormalities (which was bad enough), then the prostate exam. I was so scared and embarassed that I had the opposite reaction. My junk shriveled up like a frightened turtle!

5. We've been getting bent over by George W. for 8 years, so at least it's somebody different for a change!!

6. Most of all, it only takes a few seconds anyway, and it's a normal part of getting older. So don't even worry about it. Unless you have a male Dr. and when he is checking your prostate you feel a hand on both shoulders...



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