This is definitely a crappy problem to have. With a new baby and all that goes with that, who needs this kind of pressure too? I don't exactly know what kind of advice I can give you other that to hang in there. Things will get better. This may sound crude, but I would suggest jerking-off at some point on the day you plan to be intimate with your wife. It always seems that once you cum, it takes longer to reach that point again. I would also suggest spending a lot of time just doing the foreplay stuff so you are giving your wife pleasure before you reach that point of no return. I hope some of this is helpful, and I wish you good luck in this.

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Wear a condom for a while.

Tell your wife to quit being so sexy. Dang!
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I am hopeful this is a multiple response thread. I think this topic often gets ignored, due to embarrasment.

I think many have had this experience. After each child, it was at least a year before normal activities took place (uh sex). I often think, it only picked up after the first child, because we were trying for a second right away. Many factors come into play. Including comfort for them. My wife had a lot of sensitivity for the first year after birth. Communication is key, which I admit I have found it very hard to do.

I think out of all the threads/questions I have read, this is the most interestinig to me. Simply because this is the hardest to talk to our wives about. I love my wife with all my heart, but telling her I feel our love life is struggling is painful. In some way I hope she reads this, but... well you understand.

I will come clean... I sometimes cannot go very long because it is so infrequent! I am man, hear me roar! I have found it is important to be patient to a point (one year). I am to the point that I don't want to even try for fear of the rejection that seems to often accompany it. My wife has communicated that she feels uncomfortable due to weight gain, even though she is down to her prepregnance weight. Keep that in mind. I don't know how the "f" you do that, but keep it in mind.

I am still confused, and looking for answers... great question????

You may want to pick up a copy store or library on Tantric sex. Pick an Americanized verzion and go through some of the steps. It teachs among other things to make the pleasure in more than just the penile region and you experience, with a little practice, the full body sensation. I will also help you connect with your partner and sync your movements and breathing which can be well......breathtaking and very good for her. The better the sex the more she wants the more practice..........

Technically speaking the term is “martial relations” but the problem remains the same.

One can always “clean the pipes” as it where before “hand.” A dome is a good idea as well as positions that take longer for men.

What did the Bard say? "Drink. Increeses the desire but robs the ability."

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I started having the same problem a few years ago, when I hit about 30. Before that I could go forever, so it was quite a 'letdown' as well as embarrassing to feel like I lost my sexual prowess.

Solutions? As mentioned before, a helping hand int he morning helps later in the day. Of course, this only works if you know you're up for a treat later in the day, but babies never seem to have a schedule when it comes to letting their parents have their own playtime. What has worked for me is when initiating a romantic interlude we go straight to a BJ or something to trigger me early, then we enjoy a lot of foreplay. After that the little soldier is ready for duty and performs for much longer. I've also thought about trying other methods, like maybe a cock ring, but haven't approached that yet.

I'd say that the most important thing that helped us get past it was to talk openly about it and look for creative ways to get around it. There wasn't ever a serious conversation, but we kinda joked about it to keep the topic more comfortable.

Hope that helps at least somebody.

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I've tried this myself (though I'm not exactly proud to admit it) but it really works. I first heard about it from comedienne Debra Wilson, and I think the term she used was "getting rid of that first nut." Here's a quote from Alec Baldwin from the movie Outside providence: "Making out is like Chinese dinner: the meal ain't over until ya BOTH get yer cookie!" My wife loves it when she gets her "cookie" first, and the midday "independent study" is a good way to prepare for this in the evening. Of course, as I get older I have naturally slowed down sexually (though I am far from dead) and the "preparation" is not as necessary.
I wish you luck. My wife and I have remained close in all other areas of our marriage, due I think in large part to our efforts to keep our sex life alive.

And that's the most I EVER thought I'd tell complete strangers about our love life!

So why don't they call it mooching when the wife stays home?

A man goes to a hooker and negotiates a price for a BJ (Not the whole sale club)
Once agreed upon they step into the back room for a rendering of services. The hooker takes off her coat and gets ready. She looks up at her John to seem him "rubbing one out."

"Hey moron you just paid me to do that," says the hooker
"Yea, but I'm not giving you the easy one."

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