I checked my calendar yesterday, it said 2008! Since it's not the 40's or the 50's, and we can all know that our being here on this site means we either a) had sex, or b) donated to a tube, I think we can get over the whole "sex is naughty and shouldn't be discussed" concept. Sex toys are used by many couples all over the world to increase the experiences they have with each other, sex has been proven to lead to happy and healthier lives; a healthy sex life increases intimacy (yes, even when toys or, *gasp* videos are enjoyed) which leads to happier couples, meaning happier parents, and thus happier children, and that's why we're here anyways.

At least when I worked at the adult store, I noticed a LOT of couples, maybe I'm off base there ;)

Having kids is exhausting. Many marriages suffer. If there is a great At-home dad out there who is taking some initiative to improve his relationship with his wife, then he should be applauded. He asked for help. Many of us may have gone too far in the silly and entertaining aspects of our replies to his question, but we can always go back and edit those if it truly offends. Bottomline, it was a legitimate question for an AHD to ask and have answered.

My wife gets to talk about sex all the time AT work, I'd feel horribly cheated if I couldn't talk about it at home on the Internet of all places.

By the way, I hadn't been following that sex toy thread, but that's pure awesomeness, seems like a lot of people are having great fun and I bet those wives are happy too! I second the applauding of a man going to the extra mile to make his wife happy. Good on 'em.

I think I will get something out of that thread... I'm going to check out some of the book recommendations. Yep, for a friend, of course.

Sex is an interesting aspect of the AHD experience- I'm curious to learn more about other dad's experiences. I mean, we're doing a total role reversal here from the traditional male/female stereotypes- surely that can somehow also leave an imprint on our sex lives. I'd hate to think that we're not 1) mature enough to discuss the topic or 2) not allowed to. Sure, you could go to a sex questions site, but how many AHDs are going to be there to discuss our unique experience?

My "friend" said the thread was entertaining.

Ya know, to be as simplistic as possible, if you don't like the thread title, don't open the thread.

I hate to bring it to that level, but that's about it. Worse comes to worse, maybe we can have Mike create a folder for threads that could be "less than appropriate", that you would have to check the folder individually instead of having it posted out in the new thread layers on the front page.

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I find these polls to be very unsettling. Did the sex toy thread actually inspire complaints? Or is this just curiousity?

#1 Kids don't post here, so we aren't under any obligation to censor.

#2 There were a lot of opportunities for that thread to shatter into a million giggles and degenerate into nonsense, and yet there were thoughtful (and funny) replies that were entirely appropriate and honest.

#3 *shoot myself* *sigh* *shake head* *walk away disappointed*

Actually, no particular complaints were made about the topic. Don't worry.

On the other hand, there was more than one complaint regarding various aspects of the "music" thread, and some other comments about the recent content in general. So, I'm just trying to get a pulse on what people are thinking overall. This particular thread seemed like a good data point for a variety of reasons. My two other recent posts (http://athomedad.org/node/2230 and http://athomedad.org/node/2228) are other parts of this effort, so please check those out too.

In any case, if things are good as-is, that's great. If not, I'm willing to listen and do my best.

For trying to make sure the site is kept together as the awesome site it is. I think it is great that you are trying to make sure that the users of the site are comfortable with what is going on here.

As for this thread. I think it is testemony to the trust that the community is starting to develop. I think that the original poster felt that this group would give him good answers to his questions. I'm sure that he thought he would get a little razzing for it as well. :-)

Thanks for your effort.

Greg

Be not ashamed!
You asked a question of the fourm for feedback. Granted it's of a more personal nature than, "Where can I get my lawn mower blades sharpened?" But most if not all of the men on this sight are in long term committed relationships and we would like to keep it that way.

My uh friend and his wife have "items" from before they were married that they jokeingly referd to as marital aids when they did get married.

Be Seeing You.

Any boy who has hit puberty can father a child. This site is aimed at men who have, for whatever reason, decided to stay at home and be a Dad to their children.
One of the reasons I personally belong to this site is because after checking it out, I saw mature honest discussions, between people who held various viewpoints.
I happen to LIKE being able to discuss man things with other men and not back lower my conversations to the lowest intelligence denominator or political correctness.

I am glad that "no particular complaints were made about the topic" but when I saw the title for this poll, my first thought was "aww hell..."

Look, we're all adults here and if we can't use this forum to discuss ALL of our questions/concerns/conundrums that come with the territory, then we have forgotten the purpose of the site: to help one another based on mutual understanding of what we're all going through.

Is there a limit to how much detail we need? Of course there is. But if it's important enough for one of the brotherhood of fatherhood to ask about, then we should take the time to seriously consider the question BEFORE we begin with the sophomoric bathroom humor, of course.

We are all here to be heard & find our voice in this misunderstood role we've chosen & who better to ask this type of question to than someone who is in the same situation? Not to segregate us from working men, but consider the implications of asking your "working man drinking buddies" a question about sex toys? That'd go over like a fart in church & the poor guy would never hear the end of it.

Here, of all places, we should feel confident that we won't be judged or ridiculed & that we can be brutally honest with one another & know that the topic & the inquirer will not be ostracized for asking a delicate question. If you don't want to read about it, don't open the thread. But don't pick on the guy who asked it or censure it. That is what uninformed, small-minded people do. And from everything I've read, we're all better than that.

Kudos to the man who works hard for his family at home during the day & still has time to spice up his alone time with the wife at night! Here's to you....now if only we could get Bud Light to do one of those "Real Men of Genius" ads for you...

Making it look difficult. Living the dream.